20 Jan 2023
Helping You Gain A Mental Edge
What Is Important To You When You Play Your Sport?
What is important to you when you play your sport?
Often I find in conversations I have with athletes, coaches and parents there is a huge emphasis placed on winning, scoreboards and scorecard. Is this a bad thing? Arguably it’s not after all being competitive, wanting to win and engage in close competitions and big matches is a good thing, right! After all, these are the hallmarks of top athletes.
Yet, where does this competitive edge cause problems? I notice it:
- When things start going wrong and athletes lose form.
- When athletes become obsessed with results and outcomes.
- When athletes worry too much about what other people think.
- When athletes expectations are out of sync with the reality.
Getting the balance right between being competitive, being able to place extrinsic rewards and factors to one side is key in my book. And to be able to control the controllables when you do compete is also vital, focusing on things that are within your control.
If you struggle with the latter, controlling the controllables, this is when you’re likely to find that sport can be an emotional rollercoaster. It may drain you from time to time. You’ll also likely struggle to understand what is important to you in your sport and why you actually train and compete.
So I’d like you to consider this for the coming year. Make a note of your top 3 reasons for taking part in your sport? Consider what excites you about your sport and what gets you out of bed in a morning.
This quiz could be useful for you too, it’ll likely help you consider different factors that you hadn’t thought of even if you aren’t a youngster.
Children and Youth Motivation for Sport Quiz
You may also find this recent blog helpful to recognise how sport plays a part in developing your character.
Football Psychology Tips: Why Football Can Improve The Mental Toughness Of Your Children?
From these resources and further ideas below my hope is that you’ll be able to remain on track for longer periods and be able to deal better with pressures that you will likely face this coming year.
Further resources to give you some inspiration in this respect include:
This week’s Demystifying Mental Toughness podcast episode, #153, where Sports Psychologists, former and current Premiership Rugby players, former Super League players, Professional Coaches and Mental Performance Coaches share insights into the development of mental toughness and optimising performance in rugby.
Rugby Psychology: 25 Ways You Can Improve Your Performance
For parents, tomorrow’s Conversations with Kids post is in sync with this topic. The title is named – What is important to you? It will be live tomorrow 21 January. Keep your eyes open for some tips on how you can help your children instill some positive habits.
To View Other Conversation With Kids Ideas Helping Boost The Mental Strength Of Your Children
Blog: Sports Coach Psychology Tips: Helping Confident Coaches Progress
Blog: Sports Psychology Tips: How to Find Your Why
Ep075: Grant Phyphers – How to Rebuild Your Identity
Ep097: David Charlton – What Have You Learned From Last Year?
Ep098: Jon Bartlett – Do You Know Your Why?
Ep106: Amy Rowlinson – Why is knowing my WHY important?
FOCUS ON WHY with David Charlton, Sport and Exercise Psychologist: Why I Do What I Do
Why Finding Your Why Is The Key To Health And Longevity with Simon Sinek
Simon Sinek On The Importance Of Starting With Why!
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David Charlton
Online Sports Psychologist | Mental Performance Coach who supports many highly motivated athletes, young and old, developing their skills or who are already highly skilled so that they gain a mental edge and get the most from their talent across the globe from USA/Canada to Great Britain and Ireland to UAE, South Africa, Australia and New Zealand, using ONLINE Video Conferencing.
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With over a decades’ experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to transfer their skills from training to competitive situations, under pressure.