Conversations With Kids: Fixed Mindset

Conversations with Kids - Week 20

For parents and guardians where we give you prompts so that you can have more meaningful conversations with your children to help them build key characteristics such as mental toughness, resilience, confidence, creativity, focus and so on.  

A Question for your Kids

Is Your Mind Growing Or Is It Fixed?

Conversations With Kids Fixed Mindset

Growth mindset, mental toughness and mental strength are the topics that we look at this time in our “Conversations with Kids” email in the hope that you have some interesting chats with your kids.


  • Curiosity 
  • Mental Strength

Directions for Parents

What are the hallmarks of Growth mindset, mental toughness and mental strength? How would you expect your children to behave like as adults if they had all 3 characteristics? Perhaps they’d be more likely to be happy, successful, they’d have enhanced self esteem and they’d use they’re skills, intelligence and abilities much better especially in situations where there is pressure.

Researchers suggests children with a growth mindset will most likely have a passion for learning and when faced with challenges embrace them more often than not.  Also when they fail at something they bounce back well, certainly better than the fixed mindset.  In addition, the mentally tough enjoy enhanced well-being, career aspirations and performances.  So as a parent why not do some more research with your kids on these 2 traits!  Some suggestions are at the bottom of the page. 

Ideas for Kids

  1. What is your best subject at school? Have you always been good at it.  Do you know more about the subject now than you did one year ago?  So would your say your intelligence in the subject, let’s say maths is fixed?
  2. How do you feel when you compare yourself to someone who is better than you at a sport or in a subject at school? Do you get jealous or envious? Or do you look to learn from them?
  3. To play in the same team as a great player, like Leo Messi, Michael Hooper, Beth Mead or Jade Clarke how would you feel? How would someone with mental toughness feel playing with these great players? 

Helpful Resources

Mindset – Updated Edition: Changing The Way You think To Fulfil Your Potential

Developing Mental Toughness In Young People – Approaches to Achievement, Well-being and Positive Behaviour

If you would like to share your experiences as a sports parent or get insights regarding kids sport psychology, you may also wish to join David in The Sport Psychology Hub.

David Charlton Sports Psychologist

Best Wishes 

David Charlton

Online Sports Psychologist for Kids who supports many youngsters and sports parents so that they have more fun and get the most from their talent across the globe from USA/Canada to Great Britain and Ireland to UAE, South Africa, Australia and New Zealand, using ONLINE Video Conferencing.    

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence

Host of Demystifying Mental Toughness Podcast

Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub

Author of Conversations for Kids  

With over a decades’ experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to transfer their skills from training to competitive situations, under pressure.

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