David on Being Tough Vs Being Comfortable in Your Own Skin Part 2

David on Being Tough Vs Being Comfortable in Your Own Skin – Part 2

By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

  • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
  • Maintain positive mental health
  • Compete with confidence more often
  • Manage your emotions better
  • Improve your commitments levels

David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors.  In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

This is Part 2 of a series of episodes on being comfortable in your own skin, where I unpack 3 more common “toughness” themes where we can unconsciously behave in certain ways or put up barriers.  The barriers I discuss today are concerned with goal-setting, prejudice and delegation at individual and organisational levels.  As always, this episode is designed to help you question your approach and become the best version of yourself.

Key Learning Points:

  • Goal Setting if done right can aid confidence and motivation and reduce anxiety, if it’s done incorrectly and not given the respect it deserves it can have the opposite effect.
  • Some individuals are frightened to set goals, because of anxiety and in case they go on to sabotage their own success.
  • Some people keep quiet and do not discuss their goals and very uncomfortable doing so. 
  • Consider if your culture belittles people who discuss what they want to achieve?
  • If you are a coach or a manager do you display empathy and understanding for people who have a disability?
  • Are you too judgemental about people and their limitations?
  • Is there a tough or macho culture in your organisations or club which is set up to focus so much on outcomes and performance that the human is forgotten about and does not allow people to express themselves and be supported properly? 
  • Many people will tell you they are too busy to delegate.  That it’s more efficient for them to just do it themselves, is this born out of being tough.  Do you see yourself as a failure if you ask for help?
  • Do you believe that passing on work to others will detract from your own self-importance? 
  • Have you considered that by delegating tasks, by letting other people do things, talking about their fears more openly it can promote an environment where everyone feels more comfortable in their own skins.  

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Relevant Podcast Episodes

Podcast Ep011: Dave Algeo – Mental Toughness, Mental Health and High Performance

Podcast Ep065: Dr Amy Izycky – Encouraging Mentally Healthy Cultures in Sport

Podcast Episode 066: Marilyn Okoro – Mental Health and Resilience: Lessons from an Olympic Medalist

Podcast Episode 069: David Charlton – David on Being Tough Vs Being Comfortable in Your Own Skin Part 1

Relevant Blogs

Blog – Make Better Decisions to Help Your Sport Performance

Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

Blog – 3 Tips to Deal with Bullying in Sport

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David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 


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