How To Help Perfectionists With Their Mental Approach

How To Help Perfectionists With Their Mental Approach

By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

  • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
  • Maintain positive mental health
  • Compete with confidence more often
  • Manage your emotions better
  • Improve your commitments levels

David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors. In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

Supporting athletes with perfectionist tendencies is a large part of our work at Inspiring Sporting Excellence.  They often display the following characteristics:

  • Difficulties transferring their practice or training to competitive events or matches.
  • Trying too hard.
  • Focusing intensely on results and outcomes.
  • Unable to trust themselves under pressure.
  • High, rigid and often unrealistic expectations of themselves and others.
  • Impatience and a tendency to demonstrate poor body language in the face of difficulties and for some to give up too easily.
  • Being frightened of letting other people down.
  • Having brittle confidence.
  • Letting their own self-worth and self-esteem be influenced by poor sporting performances.

Additionally, the perfectionist athlete can be very hard on themselves which informs the content in today’s episode where I share a case study and a helpful exercise relating to recovering from mistakes and errors.

Key Learning Points

  • When we’re not emotionally involved it’s easier to be kind and compassionate.
  • Often athletes find it easier to be kinder to team-mates than themselves when difficulties arise.
  • The pressure of being judged and critiqued in sport can impact on an athlete’s ability to deal with mistakes.
  • Being kind to yourself as an athlete doesn’t mean that you are going soft.
  • Learning how to be more self-compassionate can help you motivate yourself more than fear- based motivational methods.

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Relevant Podcast Episodes To Help Perfectionist Athletes

Ep129: David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – PT1

Ep130 David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – PT2

Ep131 David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – FINAL PART

Ep142: Alessia Bruno – Is Striving for Perfection a Good Thing in Gymnastics?

Ep156: Ruth Chiles – There is Hope: How to Overcome Focal Dystonia

Other Relevant Blogs And Resources To Benefit the Athlete Who Desires To Be Perfect

Coach Development Helping Athletes Overcome Fear Of Failure

5 Ways To Create A Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

Are You A Rugby Player With Perfectionist Tendencies?

How to Trust Your Skills When You’re a Goalkeeper

How to Help Children Overcome Fear of Failure

How To Play Well When You Aren’t Feeling Great

Conversations with Kids – Dealing with Criticism

Kristin Neff Website on Self-Compassion



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Best Wishes 

David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

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