What Is Helpful And Unhelpful About Outcome Talk

What Is Helpful And Unhelpful About Outcome Talk

What Is Helpful And Unhelpful About Outcome Talk By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to: Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively Maintain positive …

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How To Help Footballers Who Struggle With Fear Of Failure

How To Help Footballers Who Struggle With Fear Of Failure

How To Help Footballers Who Struggle With Fear Of Failure By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to: Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively …

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How To Help Footballers Who Put Too Much Pressure On Themselves

How To Help Footballers Who Put Too Much Pressure On Themselves

How To Help Footballers Who Put Too Much Pressure On Themselves By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to: Cope with pressure and challenges more …

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Can’t Focus? Stop Mind Reading Others So That You Play To Your Strengths

Can’t Focus Stop Mind Reading Others So That You Play To Your Strengths

Can’t Focus? Stop Mind Reading Others So That You Play To Your Strengths By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to: Cope with pressure and …

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How To Help Perfectionists With Their Mental Approach

How To Help Perfectionists With Their Mental Approach

How To Help Perfectionists With Their Mental Approach

By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

  • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
  • Maintain positive mental health
  • Compete with confidence more often
  • Manage your emotions better
  • Improve your commitments levels

David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors. In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

Supporting athletes with perfectionist tendencies is a large part of our work at Inspiring Sporting Excellence.  They often display the following characteristics:

  • Difficulties transferring their practice or training to competitive events or matches.
  • Trying too hard.
  • Focusing intensely on results and outcomes.
  • Unable to trust themselves under pressure.
  • High, rigid and often unrealistic expectations of themselves and others.
  • Impatience and a tendency to demonstrate poor body language in the face of difficulties and for some to give up too easily.
  • Being frightened of letting other people down.
  • Having brittle confidence.
  • Letting their own self-worth and self-esteem be influenced by poor sporting performances.

Additionally, the perfectionist athlete can be very hard on themselves which informs the content in today’s episode where I share a case study and a helpful exercise relating to recovering from mistakes and errors.

Key Learning Points

  • When we’re not emotionally involved it’s easier to be kind and compassionate.
  • Often athletes find it easier to be kinder to team-mates than themselves when difficulties arise.
  • The pressure of being judged and critiqued in sport can impact on an athlete’s ability to deal with mistakes.
  • Being kind to yourself as an athlete doesn’t mean that you are going soft.
  • Learning how to be more self-compassionate can help you motivate yourself more than fear- based motivational methods.

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Relevant Podcast Episodes To Help Perfectionist Athletes

Ep129: David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – PT1

Ep130 David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – PT2

Ep131 David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – FINAL PART

Ep142: Alessia Bruno – Is Striving for Perfection a Good Thing in Gymnastics?

Ep156: Ruth Chiles – There is Hope: How to Overcome Focal Dystonia

Other Relevant Blogs And Resources To Benefit the Athlete Who Desires To Be Perfect

Coach Development Helping Athletes Overcome Fear Of Failure

5 Ways To Create A Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

Are You A Rugby Player With Perfectionist Tendencies?

How to Trust Your Skills When You’re a Goalkeeper

How to Help Children Overcome Fear of Failure

How To Play Well When You Aren’t Feeling Great

Conversations with Kids – Dealing with Criticism

Kristin Neff Website on Self-Compassion

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David Charlton

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David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

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    The Application of Mental Performance Coaching in Elite Professional Rugby

    The Application of Mental Performance Coaching in Elite Professional Rugby

    The Application of Mental Performance Coaching in Elite Professional Rugby

    Aaron Walsh

    Aaron Walsh, otherwise known as “Walshy” is an experienced Performance Coach. His main areas of focus are developing leadership, culture and mental performance programs for teams. Currently working with Chiefs in Super Rugby as well as consulting to Harlequins, Scottish Rugby, Texas Rangers and Basketball New Zealand.  Aaron has worked in MLB, NRL and with various national teams.  He is also currently coaching multiple corporate leadership teams in creating and maintaining a high performance working environments.  He is sought after and highly regarded presenter that is comfortable in both sporting and corporate environments.

    In episode #147 I chat with Aaron Walsh, a performance coach for the Chiefs rugby team in New Zealand as well as a consultant to many more elite teams including the Scottish Rugby team.  We chat about his experiences of supporting elite rugby union players, common challenges that players bring to him, perceptions from players and coaches of working on their mental game.  Performance analysis is a topic we touch on too as is culture in elite professional sport. 

    Key Learning Points:

    • We have many amazing athletes who work incredibly hard, I feel it’s a tragedy that they’re not able to actualise that skill and potential because they don’t have the ability to navigate through the emotional and mental side of performance.
    • In my philosophy I treat the mental side as a skill that can be developed.
    • Why hasn’t mental skills been integrated into elite teams is a part of Aaron’s research. The answer is people need educating on the topic.
    • How players respond to mistakes and pressure is an integral part of mental skills training.
    • Psychological safety and well-being need to be talked about cautiously in elite professional sport.
    • Everybody wants to be resilient, but not many know how to build resilience.

    Connect with Aaron Walsh

    LinkedIn

    Twitter

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    Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

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    To Listen to Rugby Orientated Podcast Episodes

    Ep029: Lome Faatau – How to Play Professional Rugby with Confidence 

    Ep038: Taz Bricknell – Playing Professional Women’s Rugby 

    Ep039: John Fletcher – How to Develop Fearless Athletes

    Ep104: Seb De Chaves – The Psychological Demands of Elite Professional Rugby

    Ep127: Paul Trainor – The Application of Mental Toughness Training in Elite Professional Rugby League

    Helpful Rugby Orientated Resources

    Blog – Overthinking on the Rugby Pitch

    Blog – Are you a Rugby Player who Focuses Too Much on the Opposition

    Blog – Helping Young Rugby Players Mentally Prepare Before Matches

    Blog – Playing Rugby at Your Best Under Pressure

    Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

    Rugby Psychology | Mental Skills for Rugby Resources

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    David Charlton

    Best Wishes 

    David Charlton

    Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

    Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

    T: +44 7734 697769

    E: [email protected]

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      How to Improve Your Mental Strength: Secrets from an Olympian

      How to Improve Your Mental Strength: Secrets from an

      How to Improve Your Mental Strength: Secrets from an Olympian

      Chris Cook

      Chris Cook is a former double Olympian & Double Commonwealth Champion.  After competing for Great Britain for nearly 10 years, he hung up the trunks and retired from international swimming and began working with businesses/organisations far and wide to help inspire, mentor and coach people to embrace ‘challenge and change’ for their optimal performance. Chris has built a reputation as a motivational speaker throughout the last 7 years working from referral to referral, sharing his story and the lessons learnt from the journey with over 400,000 people. 

      Chris and his wife Erica also run their own Learn to swim business – ‘Swim Buddies’ which has seen the business (located in Darlington, UK) grow from 7 swimmers in their first week in September 2014 through to over 1000 children swimming with Swim Buddies every week.

      Chris’s coaching, speaking and mentoring is centred around personal development. Whether it’s in the water helping swimmers or on dry land in business and life, Chris believes that success is something you attract from the person you become.

      In this episode 140, double Olympian and former Commonwealth champion swimmer, Chris Cook joined me.  We discussed his journey to becoming an Olympian and his role now as a motivational speaker and executive coach.  Different obstacles that he overcame were also talking points, as were how he sets goals and works to achieve them.  Chris also shares many great questions that you can ask yourself and what sports performers can learn from CEOs in the business world.

      Key Learning Points:

      • Having people that I was accountable to as a child was important.
      • My biggest fear was getting to the end of something and realising I hadn’t tried hard enough.
      • There were times when I got over-anxious because I wanted it too much.
      • I realised to progress I needed to become great the stuff I wasn’t good at, goal setting was one thing.
      • People in the business world would benefit from looking at how they view their recovery and make necessary changes.
      • How can I swim 2 lengths of the pool faster was a question I often asked myself.
      • Seeing difficult moments as growth opportunities and being brave enough to face them is vital.

      Connect with Chris Cook

      Website

      LinkedIn

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      To Listen to Relevant Podcast Episodes

      Ep033: Aly Dixon – Mental Toughness Lessons from a World Champion

      Ep048: Natalie Hurdley – How to Build Mental Toughness through Powerlifting

      Ep066: Marilyn Okoro – Mental Health and Resilience: Lessons from an Olympic Medalist

      Ep110: Dan Steele – How to Increase Mental Fortitude: Secrets from an Olympian

      Other Helpful Resources

      Driscolls Model of Reflection

      Blog – Do You Really Want to Succeed

      Blog – 12 Reasons Why You Won’t Achieve Your Potential

      Blog: 9 Tips for Children from Olympians

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      David Charlton

      Best Wishes 

      David Charlton

      Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

      Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

      T: +44 7734 697769

      E: [email protected]

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        Observations: 3 Things That Stop You Achieving Your Goals

        David Charlton

        Observations: 3 Things That Stop You Achieving Your Goals

        By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

        • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
        • Maintain positive mental health
        • Compete with confidence more often
        • Manage your emotions better
        • Improve your commitments levels

        David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

        He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors. In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

        In this short solo episode, I share 2 short clips from the previous 2 episodes where I chat with Kevin Stansfield and Christina Flach to inspire and motivate you to reflect on your journey.  My hope is that you will pick up some nougats of advice from the business world and then go on to adapt your approach and take some action so that you give yourself the best chance of achieving your goals and using the time and resources that you have available much better.

        Key Learning Points

        • A key question to ask yourself is – HOW CAN I REACH MY POTENTIAL?
        • 3 things that stop people from achieving their full potential:
        1. Failure to take ownership and be honest with themselves
        2. Not understanding why you do what you do
        3. Fear of what may or may not happen if you do or don’t do…

        Connect with David Charlton

        Download THE FOCUSED ATHLETE CHECKLIST

        Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

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        Relevant Podcast Episodes

        Ep21: Steve Hackney – How to Reach Your Full Potential

        Ep100: Compilation – 50 Secrets for Optimal Performance and Positive Mental Health

        Ep106: Amy Rowlinson – Why is knowing my WHY important?

        Ep132: Kevin Stansfield – How Lessons from the Great Game of Golf can Help You Win the, Equally Great, Game of Business

        Ep133: Why Mental Toughness is Important: Lessons from Sport, Business and Loss

        Other Relevant Blogs and Resources

        Motivation for Sport Quiz

        Performance Profile

        Blog: For Better Golf Use a Growth Mindset – Sports Psychology

        Blog: Coach Development – Helping Athletes Overcome Fear of Failure

        Blog: Supporting Children in Sport with Positive Feedback

        Blog: How to Find Your Why 

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        Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they’re extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and we read every single one of them!

        David Charlton

        Best Wishes 

        David Charlton

        Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

        Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

        T: +44 7734 697769

        E: [email protected]

        Search Our Sports Psychology Website

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        Join Our Online Community Now!

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