How Do I Help My Children Deal With Strong Emotions?

EP 149 Episode Cover David Charlton

How Do I Help My Children Deal With Strong Emotions?

David Charlton

By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

  • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
  • Maintain positive mental health
  • Compete with confidence more often
  • Manage your emotions better
  • Improve your commitments levels

David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors. In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

In this short solo episode, I answer a popular question that we get asked by sporting parents – how do I help my children deal with strong emotions?

When playing sport, children’s lives are littered with challenges and difficulties including; being dropped from squads or teams, losing form or skills, being injured and the recovery period, selection bias, being bullied, being played out of position, and dealing with making mistakes and losing, as well as many more.   I go on to share 7 suggestions for parents that you may find helpful. 

Key Learnings

  1. Think about what you want to say. 
  2. Find a quiet moment. 
  3. Find out what they know. 
  4. Share your feelings with your child.
  5. Tell the truth. 
  6. Say “I don’t know.”
  7. Take good care of yourself

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Relevant Podcast Episodes

Ep074: David Charlton – How Can I Make My Child Feel Confident?

Ep112: David Charlton – How to Deal with Physical Insecurities as a Young Athlete

Ep122: Prof Camilla Knight – Helping Your Children Get The Most From Their Sporting Experiences

Ep145: David Charlton – How Can I Help My Children Who Suffer With Nerves Before They Compete?

Other Relevant Blogs and Resources

5 Tips for Parents To Help Their Children Perform with Confidence

Helping Young Athletes Manage Emotions

Does Your Child Worry Too Much About What Others Think?

My Child Can’t Find “The Zone”

Communicating with Children in Sport

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David Charlton

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David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

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Conversations With Kids: Bravery

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How to Build Your Mental Toughness Through Skiing

EP 148 Episode Cover Derek Tate

How to Build Your Mental Toughness Through Skiing

Derek Tate

Derek Tate has spent over 35 years involved teaching and coaching. The sport of Alpine skiing has been both the passion and the career over this time. His qualifications include the British Association of Snowsport Instructors International Ski Teacher Diploma BASI Level 4), PG Diploma in Sports Coaching and MSc Applied Positive Psychology (MAPP). In addition to teaching skiers of all levels, he educates and examines snowsport instructors, and offers mental skills and mental health coaching to individuals online and in person. He has also authored ‘Learn, Enjoy, Flow & Grow’ and ‘Six Steps for Training the Mind’.

Our guest today is Derek Tate, an experienced ski coach and author.  We go on to discuss his book Six Steps for Training the Mind as well as mental toughness in snowsports.  Derek goes on to share insights into differences in mindset between recreational and elite skiers, the role of fear, pushing boundaries and comfort zones, the impact of self-talk, getting into a flow state and a whole lot more. 

  • Fear is a common emotion for both recreational and elite skiers.
  • The environment and weather on the slopes changes frequently making for unique challenges.
  • Mental toughness when skiing is the ability to navigate, manage and overcome self-doubt, worries, concerns and circumstances that prevent you from succeeding without compromising your well-being.
  • If mental skills were trained in the same way as physical skills or technical skills, there’d be a lot more people who are better prepared when skiing.
  • Many people are distracted by the conversation they have with themselves.
  • Mindfulness meditation and gratitude are very helpful skills skiers can benefit from learning.
  • Getting into a flow state is hugely beneficial for your mental health.

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Helpful Podcast Episodes

Ep046: Kate Mackay – Why Snowboarding is a Metaphor for Life

Ep048: Natalie Hurdley – How to Build Mental Toughness through Powerlifting

Ep066: Marilyn Okoro – Mental Health and Resilience: Lessons from an Olympic Medalist

Ep110: Dan Steele – How to Increase Mental Fortitude: Secrets from an Olympian

Ep140: Chris Cook – How to Improve Your Mental Strength: Secrets from an Olympian

Other Useful Resources

Blog – Make Better Decisions to Help Your Sport Performance

Blog – Coach Development: Helping Athletes Overcome Fear of Failure

Blog – Do You Really Want to Succeed

Blog – 12 Reasons Why You Won’t Achieve Your Potential

Blog: 9 Tips for Children from Olympians

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David Charlton

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David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

E: [email protected]

Conversations With Kids: Trust Mindset

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Conversations with Kids – Week 12 For parents and guardians where we give you prompts so that you can have more meaningful conversations with your children to help them build key characteristics such as mental toughness, resilience, confidence, creativity, focus and so on.   A Question for your Kids What might happen if you trusted your

The Application of Mental Performance Coaching in Elite Professional Rugby

EP 147 The Application of Mental Performance Coaching in Elite Professional Rugby

The Application of Mental Performance Coaching in Elite Professional Rugby

Aaron Walsh

Aaron Walsh, otherwise known as “Walshy” is an experienced Performance Coach. His main areas of focus are developing leadership, culture and mental performance programs for teams. Currently working with Chiefs in Super Rugby as well as consulting to Harlequins, Scottish Rugby, Texas Rangers and Basketball New Zealand.  Aaron has worked in MLB, NRL and with various national teams.  He is also currently coaching multiple corporate leadership teams in creating and maintaining a high performance working environments.  He is sought after and highly regarded presenter that is comfortable in both sporting and corporate environments.

In episode #147 I chat with Aaron Walsh, a performance coach for the Chiefs rugby team in New Zealand as well as a consultant to many more elite teams including the Scottish Rugby team.  We chat about his experiences of supporting elite rugby union players, common challenges that players bring to him, perceptions from players and coaches of working on their mental game.  Performance analysis is a topic we touch on too as is culture in elite professional sport. 

Key Learning Points:

  • We have many amazing athletes who work incredibly hard, I feel it’s a tragedy that they’re not able to actualise that skill and potential because they don’t have the ability to navigate through the emotional and mental side of performance.
  • In my philosophy I treat the mental side as a skill that can be developed.
  • Why hasn’t mental skills been integrated into elite teams is a part of Aaron’s research. The answer is people need educating on the topic.
  • How players respond to mistakes and pressure is an integral part of mental skills training.
  • Psychological safety and well-being need to be talked about cautiously in elite professional sport.
  • Everybody wants to be resilient, but not many know how to build resilience.

Connect with Aaron Walsh

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To Listen to Rugby Orientated Podcast Episodes

Ep029: Lome Faatau – How to Play Professional Rugby with Confidence 

Ep038: Taz Bricknell – Playing Professional Women’s Rugby 

Ep039: John Fletcher – How to Develop Fearless Athletes

Ep104: Seb De Chaves – The Psychological Demands of Elite Professional Rugby

Ep127: Paul Trainor – The Application of Mental Toughness Training in Elite Professional Rugby League

Helpful Rugby Orientated Resources

Blog – Overthinking on the Rugby Pitch

Blog – Are you a Rugby Player who Focuses Too Much on the Opposition

Blog – Helping Young Rugby Players Mentally Prepare Before Matches

Blog – Playing Rugby at Your Best Under Pressure

Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

Rugby Psychology | Mental Skills for Rugby Resources

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David Charlton

Best Wishes 

David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

E: [email protected]

Rugby Psychology Tips: Are You A Rugby Player With Perfectionist Tendencies?

Rugby Psychology Tips Are you a Rugby Player with Perfectionist Tendencies

Rugby Psychology Tips: Are you a Rugby Player with Perfectionist Tendencies? This article is also for the rugby coach who is breeding perfectionists Perfectionist rugby players have unrealistic demands about their performance levels often leading to a lack of confidence and trust in their ability under pressure in matches.  Rugby players who strive for perfection