How Can I Help My Children Who Suffer With Nerves Before They Compete?

How Can I Help My Children Who Suffer With Nerves Before They Compete?

David Charlton

By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

  • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
  • Maintain positive mental health
  • Compete with confidence more often
  • Manage your emotions better
  • Improve your commitments levels

David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors. In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

In this short solo episode, I answer a question posed by a parent.  “How can I help my son, a goalkeeper who gets very grumpy and nervous the evening before a match?”  Many children across a range of sports face this challenge, often talking themselves into performing poorly before they go out to play a match or compete.  They let nervousness win.  Today’s episode is set up to help parents where I share some ideas on how you could adapt your approach so that you help your children. 

Key Learning

  • Consider if you are providing emotional support or if you are drawn into problem solving?
  • Offer your children some space.
  • Help your children to find ways to switch off from their sport.
  • Be careful not to over-coach your children.
  • Consider if practice the day or evening before is fun and relaxing or actually fuelling anxiety and perfectionism.

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Relevant Podcast Episodes

Ep008: Brendan Pearson – Academy Football, Professional Football, Injuries and Early Retirement

Ep074: David Charlton – How Can I Make My Child Feel Confident?

Ep087: Carl Bell – From Professional Football and Goalkeeping to Physiotherapy

Ep112: David Charlon – How to Deal with Physical Insecurities as a Young Athlete

Ep122: Prof Camilla Knight – Helping Your Children Get The Most From Their Sporting Experiences

Other Relevant Blogs and Resources

Blog: Pre Match Tips for Parents

Blog: 5 Reasons Why Being Released from a Football Academy is Difficult

Blog: How To Overcome Self-Doubt When You’re A Goalkeeper

Blog: Goalkeepers – Does your warm up have to be perfect for you to feel confident

Blog: Do You Focus Too Much on the Opposition as a Goalkeeper



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David Charlton

Best Wishes 

David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

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