How To Help Athletes Who Freeze Under Pressure #BITESIZE

EP 222 Episode Cover Ruth Chiles

How To Help Athletes Who Freeze Under Pressure #BITESIZE Ruth Chiles works with professional musicians from many of the world´s leading symphonic orchestras, as well as from other genres such as jazz, rock and blues. Her experience is also with premier and international league sports clubs, and professional dancers, gymnasts, basketball players, skiers and track …

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How To Use Pre Performance Routines When The Pressure Is On #BITESIZE

EP 221 Episode Cover Jeremy Snape

How To Use Pre Performance Routines When The Pressure Is On #BITESIZE Jeremy Snape has the combined experience of being a successful International cricketer and coach to provide innovative performance ideas for teams and leaders. He has the ability to draw upon real life examples from his playing and coaching career which are underpinned by …

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Why Breathwork is so Powerful

EP 210 Episode Cover Anna Parker-Naples

Why Breathwork is so Powerful Anna Parker-Naples is an international award-winning Coach, Breathwork Expert, Master NLP Practitioner, Speaker and Author. She is the founder of Influential Breathwork and the Influential Breathwork Coach Certification.  She is author of ‘Get Visible’ and ‘Podcast with Impact’, host of Top 1% global podcast ‘Positively Influential’ and owner of Influential …

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How To Help Footballers Who Are Sensitive To Criticism

EP 196 Episode Cover David Charlton

How To Help Footballers Who Are Sensitive To Criticism By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to: Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively Maintain …

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How To Deal With Criticism So That You Don’t Take It So Personally #BITESIZE

EP 174 Episode Cover Paul McGee

How To Deal With Criticism So That You Don’t Take It So Personally #BITESIZE

Professor Paul McGee is one of Europe’s leading speakers on the subject of change, resilience, wellbeing, and communication. His book SUMO became a Sunday Times best seller and his book on Self Confidence reached number one in the WHSmith’s business book chart and remained there for a further 24 weeks. He has appeared on BBC Breakfast television and is a regular contributor on BBC Radio.

Paul’s aim is to deliver a practical, relevant message that can make an immediate impact on people’s professional and personal lives. He’s spoken for more than 1,000 organisations in over 40 countries to date, and from India to Italy and from Bangkok to Brisbane, Paul’s messages have resonated with a global audience. He has had the privilege of working with one of the world’s top management gurus the late Dr Stephen Covey and his work has been endorsed by Sir Clive Woodward, who coached England to victory in the 2003 Rugby Union World Cup. Chris Evans has described Paul’s books as “a gift to the world.” His clients include prominent blue chip organisations, public sector bodies and a leading Premiership football club.

Prof. Paul McGee’s Books  • S.U.M.O. Your Relationships: How to Handle Not Strangle the People You Live and Work With • How to Speak So People Really Listen: The Straight–Talking Guide to Communicating with Influence and Impact •  S.U.M.O (Shut Up, Move On): The Straight-Talking Guide to Succeeding in Life •

Criticism is everywhere today, where people often share their opinions of other people very easily despite not knowing the person, online using social media.  The criticism often goes too far, especially in a sporting context, when so much emotion is evident.  Throw in general criticism on the side of a pitch from spectators, and negative feedback from coaches and team-mates.  It really can be tough being involved in sport with no hiding place.

You’ll find some athletes and coaches brush off criticism, others though can find it very difficult to deal with.  It can impact their well-being and relationships with other people.  Sometimes they’ll respond angrily or in an aggressive manner, in other cases they’ll be overcome with sadness and get very upset. 

The key is to take the learning, from criticism, which isn’t easy and is the focus of this bitesize episode, with Professor Paul McGee, one of Europe’s leading speakers and a respected author.  He shares some great stories and ideas to help you.

Feel free to tune in!

Key Learning Points:

  • A bad game doesn’t mean that you are a bad person.
  • Recognise if you become defensive in the face of criticism.
  • Acknowledge if your inner dialogue is overly critical and learn to be kinder to yourself.
  • Perspective is vital.

Useful Questions To Ask Yourself:

  • Would you seek advice from the person who has criticised you?
  • Does the person criticising you have your best interests at heart?
  • Will I remember this incident in 6 months’ time?
  • On a scale of 1-10 how close to death is this situation?

Connect with Paul McGee

LinkedIn

The Sumo Guy Website 

Books written by Paul McGee

S.U.M.O. Your Relationships: How to Handle Not Strangle the People You Live and Work With

S.U.M.O (Shut Up, Move On): The Straight-Talking Guide to Succeeding in Life

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Sign Up to The Mental Edge

Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn

Relevant Podcast Episodes

Ep041: Paul McGee – How to Develop Interpersonal Confidence

Ep105: Hannah Bromley – Overcoming Psychological Challenges in Professional Women’s Football

Ep120: David Charlton – Sport Coach Development: Helping Athletes Perform Better by Adapting How You Communicate

Ep131 David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – FINAL PART

Ep166: Mark Bennett MBE – How To Help Athletes and Coaches Reflect On Their Performances

Relevant Blogs

Blog: 3 Tips to deal with bullying in sport

Blog: Communicating with children in sport

Blog: Why You Should Recognise The Power of Your Words

Blog: How Coaches Can Help Athletes Deal with Mistakes

Blog: 5 Ways To Create A Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

Other Useful Resources

Conversations with Kids – Dealing with Criticism

Kristin Neff Website on Self-Compassion

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David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

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    The Application of Mental Performance Coaching in Elite Professional Rugby

    The Application of Mental Performance Coaching in Elite Professional Rugby

    The Application of Mental Performance Coaching in Elite Professional Rugby

    Aaron Walsh

    Aaron Walsh, otherwise known as “Walshy” is an experienced Performance Coach. His main areas of focus are developing leadership, culture and mental performance programs for teams. Currently working with Chiefs in Super Rugby as well as consulting to Harlequins, Scottish Rugby, Texas Rangers and Basketball New Zealand.  Aaron has worked in MLB, NRL and with various national teams.  He is also currently coaching multiple corporate leadership teams in creating and maintaining a high performance working environments.  He is sought after and highly regarded presenter that is comfortable in both sporting and corporate environments.

    In episode #147 I chat with Aaron Walsh, a performance coach for the Chiefs rugby team in New Zealand as well as a consultant to many more elite teams including the Scottish Rugby team.  We chat about his experiences of supporting elite rugby union players, common challenges that players bring to him, perceptions from players and coaches of working on their mental game.  Performance analysis is a topic we touch on too as is culture in elite professional sport. 

    Key Learning Points:

    • We have many amazing athletes who work incredibly hard, I feel it’s a tragedy that they’re not able to actualise that skill and potential because they don’t have the ability to navigate through the emotional and mental side of performance.
    • In my philosophy I treat the mental side as a skill that can be developed.
    • Why hasn’t mental skills been integrated into elite teams is a part of Aaron’s research. The answer is people need educating on the topic.
    • How players respond to mistakes and pressure is an integral part of mental skills training.
    • Psychological safety and well-being need to be talked about cautiously in elite professional sport.
    • Everybody wants to be resilient, but not many know how to build resilience.

    Connect with Aaron Walsh

    LinkedIn

    Twitter

    Connect with David Charlton

    Download THE FOCUSED ATHLETE CHECKLIST

    Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

    Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn

    To Listen to Rugby Orientated Podcast Episodes

    Ep029: Lome Faatau – How to Play Professional Rugby with Confidence 

    Ep038: Taz Bricknell – Playing Professional Women’s Rugby 

    Ep039: John Fletcher – How to Develop Fearless Athletes

    Ep104: Seb De Chaves – The Psychological Demands of Elite Professional Rugby

    Ep127: Paul Trainor – The Application of Mental Toughness Training in Elite Professional Rugby League

    Helpful Rugby Orientated Resources

    Blog – Overthinking on the Rugby Pitch

    Blog – Are you a Rugby Player who Focuses Too Much on the Opposition

    Blog – Helping Young Rugby Players Mentally Prepare Before Matches

    Blog – Playing Rugby at Your Best Under Pressure

    Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

    Rugby Psychology | Mental Skills for Rugby Resources

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    David Charlton

    Best Wishes 

    David Charlton

    Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

    Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

    T: +44 7734 697769

    E: [email protected]

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      How Can I Help My Children Who Suffer With Nerves Before They Compete?

      EP 145 Episode Cover David Charlton

      How Can I Help My Children Who Suffer With Nerves Before They Compete?

      By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

      • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
      • Maintain positive mental health
      • Compete with confidence more often
      • Manage your emotions better
      • Improve your commitments levels

      David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

      He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors. In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

      In this short solo episode, I answer a question posed by a parent.  “How can I help my son, a goalkeeper who gets very grumpy and nervous the evening before a match?”  Many children across a range of sports face this challenge, often talking themselves into performing poorly before they go out to play a match or compete.  They let nervousness win.  Today’s episode is set up to help parents where I share some ideas on how you could adapt your approach so that you help your children. 

      Key Learning

      • Consider if you are providing emotional support or if you are drawn into problem solving?
      • Offer your children some space.
      • Help your children to find ways to switch off from their sport.
      • Be careful not to over-coach your children.
      • Consider if practice the day or evening before is fun and relaxing or actually fuelling anxiety and perfectionism.

      Connect with David Charlton

      Sign Up to Conversations with Kids

      Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

      Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn

      Relevant Podcast Episodes

      Ep008: Brendan Pearson – Academy Football, Professional Football, Injuries and Early Retirement

      Ep074: David Charlton – How Can I Make My Child Feel Confident?

      Ep087: Carl Bell – From Professional Football and Goalkeeping to Physiotherapy

      Ep112: David Charlon – How to Deal with Physical Insecurities as a Young Athlete

      Ep122: Prof Camilla Knight – Helping Your Children Get The Most From Their Sporting Experiences

      Other Relevant Blogs and Resources

      Blog: Pre Match Tips for Parents

      Blog: 5 Reasons Why Being Released from a Football Academy is Difficult

      Blog: How To Overcome Self-Doubt When You’re A Goalkeeper

      Blog: Goalkeepers – Does your warm up have to be perfect for you to feel confident

      Blog: Do You Focus Too Much on the Opposition as a Goalkeeper

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      Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they’re extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and we read every single one of them!

      David Charlton

      Best Wishes 

      David Charlton

      Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

      Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

      T: +44 7734 697769

      E: [email protected]

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        How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – Final Part

        EP 131 Episode Cover David Charlton

        How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – Final Part

        By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

        • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
        • Maintain positive mental health
        • Compete with confidence more often
        • Manage your emotions better
        • Improve your commitments levels

        David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

        He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors. In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

        This episode is the final part of a three-part series where I’ve tried to help people recognise that to develop Mental Toughness it is not simply about “being tough” or “egotistical” there is more to it than that.   The series of episodes have looked at self-criticism, which we can all find difficult at different times and in different situations, from a variety of angles.  I’ve shared sporting case studies, and why and how having a self-compassionate approach can be helpful.  

        This time we look at competitiveness and I highlight when things go wrong how hard it is for some people and how they internalise losses.  Also featured is an exercise to help you in these circumstances – “How you would treat a friend” which you can apply to yourself so you can move on from defeats in a different manner and sleep a little better that evening!

        Key Learning Points

        • Competitiveness is a strong desire to be more successful than others.
        • People who are competitive dream about winning, they love the feelings of beating rivals.  
        • Real competitors thrive off pressure in clutch situations.  They love the challenge too, for example taking the decisive penalty kick to win a tournament, they’ll out their hand up.
        • The downsides of being extremely competitive include jealousy of others, very high emotions in sport and corresponding outbursts.
        • A large degree of self-criticism can also be a common behaviour of “the serious competitor” which can work for and against them.
        • To counter the self-criticism, self-compassion is a very helpful approach and can help people relax more quickly in emotional circumstances. 
        • Kristin Neff, who has done extensive research in this area suggests that self-compassion consists of three main elements: kindness, a sense of common humanity, and mindfulness. 
        • Research has shown that most people are kinder to others than they are to themselves. Throw in events or situations that are beyond our control, such as sporting matches and competition – the same is true.  
        • Then exercise “How you would treat a friend” is a helpful reminder to help you be kinder to yourself, to see things from a fresh perspective as well as helping you look in the mirror and be honest with yourself.  

        Connect with David Charlton

        Download THE FOCUSED ATHLETE CHECKLIST

        Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

        Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn

        Relevant Podcast Episodes

        Ep129: David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – PT1

        Ep130 David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – PT2

        Other Relevant Blogs and Resources

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        Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they’re extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and we read every single one of them!

        David Charlton

        Best Wishes 

        David Charlton

        Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

        Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

        T: +44 7734 697769

        E: [email protected]

        Search Our Sports Psychology Website

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