How to Help a Child Who Wants to Quit Sport

EP 141 Episode Cover David Charlton

How to Help a Child Who Wants to Quit Sport

David Charlton

By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

  • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
  • Maintain positive mental health
  • Compete with confidence more often
  • Manage your emotions better
  • Improve your commitments levels

David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors. In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

In this short solo episode, I answer a question posed by a parent.  “My son has had a tough time recently and often talks about not wanting to continue with football.”

Sadly, this question appears to be a common one at present and shows no signs of going away potentially down to the pressures placed on children at a young age, both in their sport and education.  I do my best to give sporting parents one idea on how you can help them and open up a conversation on the topic.

Key Learning

  • Ask your child why they play football or sport.
  • Find out what they love about sport.
  • Check-in with yourself, why would you like your children to play sport?
  • Now check if you share common ground, if there is a big difference in your motivations I’m hoping you’ll question your approach and consider how you communicate with them. 

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David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

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    How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – Final Part

    EP 131 Episode Cover David Charlton

    How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – Final Part

    David Charlton

    By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

    • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
    • Maintain positive mental health
    • Compete with confidence more often
    • Manage your emotions better
    • Improve your commitments levels

    David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

    He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors. In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

    This episode is the final part of a three-part series where I’ve tried to help people recognise that to develop Mental Toughness it is not simply about “being tough” or “egotistical” there is more to it than that.   The series of episodes have looked at self-criticism, which we can all find difficult at different times and in different situations, from a variety of angles.  I’ve shared sporting case studies, and why and how having a self-compassionate approach can be helpful.  

    This time we look at competitiveness and I highlight when things go wrong how hard it is for some people and how they internalise losses.  Also featured is an exercise to help you in these circumstances – “How you would treat a friend” which you can apply to yourself so you can move on from defeats in a different manner and sleep a little better that evening!

    Key Learning Points

    • Competitiveness is a strong desire to be more successful than others.
    • People who are competitive dream about winning, they love the feelings of beating rivals.  
    • Real competitors thrive off pressure in clutch situations.  They love the challenge too, for example taking the decisive penalty kick to win a tournament, they’ll out their hand up.
    • The downsides of being extremely competitive include jealousy of others, very high emotions in sport and corresponding outbursts.
    • A large degree of self-criticism can also be a common behaviour of “the serious competitor” which can work for and against them.
    • To counter the self-criticism, self-compassion is a very helpful approach and can help people relax more quickly in emotional circumstances. 
    • Kristin Neff, who has done extensive research in this area suggests that self-compassion consists of three main elements: kindness, a sense of common humanity, and mindfulness. 
    • Research has shown that most people are kinder to others than they are to themselves. Throw in events or situations that are beyond our control, such as sporting matches and competition – the same is true.  
    • Then exercise “How you would treat a friend” is a helpful reminder to help you be kinder to yourself, to see things from a fresh perspective as well as helping you look in the mirror and be honest with yourself.  

    Connect with David Charlton

    Download THE FOCUSED ATHLETE CHECKLIST

    Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

    Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn

    Relevant Podcast Episodes

    Ep129: David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – PT1

    Ep130 David Charlton – How to Deal with Self-Criticism using Self Compassion – PT2

    Other Relevant Blogs and Resources

    IF YOU ENJOYED TODAY'S SHOW PLEASE SHARE

    SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON YOUR FAVOURITE AUDIO PLATFORM

    Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they’re extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and we read every single one of them!

    David Charlton

    Best Wishes 

    David Charlton

    Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

    Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

    T: +44 7734 697769

    E: [email protected]

    Search Our Sports Psychology Website

    Popular Categories

    Join Our Online Community Now!

    Mental Edge Newsletter

    Are you an athlete, coach or parent that would like to learn how to create sustainable high performance? Receive our free regular newsletter, where we share proven mental toughness and high performance tips and strategies. If you want some support and motivation straight to your inbox, then sign up below.

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