How to Help a Child Who Wants to Quit Sport

EP 141 Episode Cover David Charlton

How to Help a Child Who Wants to Quit Sport

David Charlton

By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to:

  • Cope with pressure and challenges more effectively
  • Maintain positive mental health
  • Compete with confidence more often
  • Manage your emotions better
  • Improve your commitments levels

David is a Mental Toughness Practitioner, as well as a Health Care and Professions Council (HCPC) Registered Sport and Exercise Psychologist.  He has successfully supported athletes, teams and organisations for over 10 years in order to ensure that they perform at their maximum more often.

He has a comprehensive knowledge around the development of Mental Toughness, a plastic personality trait, which determines or limits people to deal effectively with change, challenges and stressors. In today’s climate, during the Coronavirus pandemic this quality is becoming more and more valuable to individuals, teams and organisations. 

In this short solo episode, I answer a question posed by a parent.  “My son has had a tough time recently and often talks about not wanting to continue with football.”

Sadly, this question appears to be a common one at present and shows no signs of going away potentially down to the pressures placed on children at a young age, both in their sport and education.  I do my best to give sporting parents one idea on how you can help them and open up a conversation on the topic.

Key Learning

  • Ask your child why they play football or sport.
  • Find out what they love about sport.
  • Check-in with yourself, why would you like your children to play sport?
  • Now check if you share common ground, if there is a big difference in your motivations I’m hoping you’ll question your approach and consider how you communicate with them. 

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Relevant Podcast Episodes

Ep067: David Charlton – Supporting Children to Transfer their Skills from Training to Competition

Ep074: David Charlton – How Can I Make My Child Feel Confident?

Ep082: David Charlton – Supporting Children in Sport with Positive Feedback

Ep085: David Charlton –  David on Being Tough Vs Being Comfortable in Your Own Skin Part 4

Ep122: Prof Camilla Knight – Helping Your Children Get The Most From Their Sporting Experiences

Other Relevant Blogs and Resources

Blog: A Confidence Checklist for Parents

Blog: Pre Match Tips for Parents

Blog: How Do You Give a Young Golfer Self-Confidence?

Blog: 5 Reasons Why Being Released from a Football Academy is Difficult

Children and Youth Motivation for Sport Quiz

Child and Youth Motivation Quiz for Parents

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David Charlton

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David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

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    Steve Beharall’s Journey from Football Coach to CEO

    EP 139 Episode Cover Steve Beharall

    Steve Beharall’s Journey from Football Coach to CEO

    Steve Beharall

    Steve Beharall is the Head of Newcastle United Foundation who are the charity of Newcastle United.  

     Steve has the responsibility for leading the Foundations Senior Management Team with accountability for strategy, business planning, leadership, management, governance, finance and risk.

    Since 2016 Steve has played a strategic role in significantly growing the Foundations income by developing innovative programmes and helping grow services to generate fees, sales and grants.

    Newcastle United Foundation employ over 200 staff and have been recognised nationally at the 2021 Football Business Awards as one of the best community organisation in the Premier League and was also awarded the North East Charity of the year In October 2021 and then in December was again recognised with the International Sports Award for Professional Clubs (Community).

    In March 2022 the Foundation opened NUCASTLE a world class, £8.5m purpose built capital development in Newcastle City centre to further expand the work of the Foundation and in July 2022 NUCASTLE was recognised at the Construction News Awards as best national project (under £20m)

    In episode 139 of Demystifying Mental Toughness I had the pleasure of speaking to the head of The Newcastle United Foundation, Steve Beharall.  Steve shared his inspiring journey from being a part time football coach to where he is today.  Lessons that he has learned, challenges he’s overcome as well as insights into initiatives that the foundation are involved in and what the future holds.  Steve also passes on some advice to the future generation of coaches on opportunities for them.

    Key Learning Points:

    • Whilst as an academy coach at Newcastle United, I realised that all I wanted was to help kids with football.
    • When I decided to take a different direction in the Newcastle United Foundation I spent the first three years of my time here working closely with my predecessor learning valuable lessons.  
    • Since I started we’ve gone from 65 to 240 full time staff and 60 sessional staff. 
    • In 2022, we’ve grown the turnover from £3 million to £6 million and expanded on programs, by 80% in the last three years.
    • Newcastle United Foundation Case Studies
    • NUcastle is an important part of the community and service sector across the North East of England.
    • Whether you’re a coach or a leader, relationships have to built on trust, respect and honesty.
    • It’s important to be mindful of your mental health.

    Connect with Steve Beharall

    The Newcastle United Foundation Website

    LinkedIn

    Connect with David Charlton

    Sign Up to Conversations with Kids

    Download THE FOCUSED ATHLETE CHECKLIST

    Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

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    To Listen to Relevant Podcast Episodes

    Ep027: Natalie Henderson – How to Develop Mental Toughness with Young Footballers 

    Ep064: Edu Rubio – How to Support Young Footballers 

    Ep 084: Dr Jim Afremow and Phil White – Mental Toughness and The Leaders Mind 

    Ep092: Dr James Hegarty – ACT in Sport, Improving Performance through Mindfulness

    Ep111: Michael Caulfield – How to be an Effective Sports Psychologist in Elite Professional Football 

    Other Helpful Resources

    Psychology in Football or Soccer Library

    Blog: How Mentally Healthy is Your Clubs Sporting Environment

    Blog: Does Your Warm Up Influence How You Perform?

    Blog: 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

    Blog: 3 Tips to Deal with Bullying in Sport

    Vlog: How Mental Toughness Helps us Understand Psychological Safety with Doug Strycharczyk 

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    Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they’re extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and we read every single one of them!

    David Charlton

    Best Wishes 

    David Charlton

    Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

    Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

    T: +44 7734 697769

    E: [email protected]

    Search Our Sports Psychology Website

    Popular Categories

    Join Our Online Community Now!

    Mental Edge Newsletter

    Are you an athlete, coach or parent that would like to learn how to create sustainable high performance? Receive our free regular newsletter, where we share proven mental toughness and high performance tips and strategies. If you want some support and motivation straight to your inbox, then sign up below.

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      Overcoming Tough Times in Professional Women’s Football and Bouncing Back Stronger

      EP 136 Episode Cover Charlotte Potts

      Overcoming Tough Times in Professional Women's Football and Bouncing Back Stronger

      Charlotte Potts

      Charlotte Potts is a professional footballer who has played for Hibernian Football Club, Sunderland AFC and FC Lugano.  She is also an ambassador for Gateshead FC and can be heard on local radio stations on a regular basis.  Charlotte has an interest in mental health and discrimination and works closely with well recognised charity Show Racism the Red Card too.

      In this episode I was joined by professional footballer Charlotte Potts where we had a deep and fascinating conversation about different challenges that she has faced so far in her life and when playing Professional Women’s Football.  We went on to discuss Discrimination, Mental Health and Mindfulness too as well as a whole lot more.  It’s well worth a listen!

      Key Learning Points:

      • Charlotte’s mental health has suffered from time to time therefore she has looked to develop a high degree of self-awareness to help herself.
      • Her family was pulled apart when she was young which was difficult for everyone concerned.
      • Discrimination exists in football and in life, however progress is being made.
      • Mental Toughness in football is about coping with pain and being able to push through barriers.   
      • Charlotte has an interest in Mindfulness and regularly practices the approach.
      • Being able to take a step back has helped her with anger issues.
      • Mindfulness has also helped Charlotte see things from a fresh perspective.

      Connect with Charlotte Potts

      Instagram

      LinkedIn

      Connect with David Charlton

      Sign Up to Conversations with Kids

      Download THE FOCUSED ATHLETE CHECKLIST

      Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

      Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn

      To Listen to Football or Soccer Podcast Episodes

      Ep038: Taz Bricknell – Playing Professional Women’s Rugby 

      Ep092: Dr James Hegarty – ACT in Sport, Improving Performance through Mindfulness

      Ep105: Hannah Bromley – Overcoming Psychological Challenges in Elite Professional Women’s Football

      Ep111: Michael Caulfield – How to be an Effective Sports Psychologist in Elite Professional Football 

      Other Helpful Resources

      Psychology in Football or Soccer Library

      Blog: How Mentally Healthy is Your Clubs Sporting Environment

      Blog: Does Your Warm Up Influence How You Perform?

      Blog: 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

      Blog: Supporting a Professional Footballer during Challenging Times

      Blog: 3 Tips to Deal with Bullying in Sport

      Vlog: How Mental Toughness Helps us Understand Psychological Safety with Doug Strycharczyk 

      Guided Mindfulness Meditation Practices with Jon Kabat-Zinn

      IF YOU ENJOYED TODAY'S SHOW PLEASE SHARE

      SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON YOUR FAVOURITE AUDIO PLATFORM

      Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they’re extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and we read every single one of them!

      David Charlton

      Best Wishes 

      David Charlton

      Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

      Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

      T: +44 7734 697769

      E: [email protected]

      Search Our Sports Psychology Website

      Popular Categories

      Join Our Online Community Now!

      Mental Edge Newsletter

      Are you an athlete, coach or parent that would like to learn how to create sustainable high performance? Receive our free regular newsletter, where we share proven mental toughness and high performance tips and strategies. If you want some support and motivation straight to your inbox, then sign up below.

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        EP 117 Episode Cover David Charlton

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