Can You Show Vulnerability and Be Mentally Tough? Yes!

EP 128 Episode Cover Paula Eddy-Wilcox

Can You Show Vulnerability and Be Mentally Tough? Yes!

Paula Eddy-Wilcox

Paula Eddy-Wilcox is a well respected Leadership Coach, The Natural Leadership Coach and Founder of Game of Leadership, The Podcast for Curious Leaders. When supporting her clients, business leaders and executives, she looks to empower you to achieve the things that you want in life.  Paula helps her clients to go about reaching their goals in a way that really resonates with them. By pinpointing your purpose and transforming your mindset, you can then go on to unlock a deep reserve of energy, drive, and natural aptitude that feels authentic to you.

She is not just here to encourage you to imagine what’s possible. She is very tenacious and calm and enjoys working together with her clients to hammer out actionable, step-by-step plans for achieving your goals. 

In today’s episode #128, I speak to a well respected leadership coach, The Natural Leadership Coach and host for The Game of Leadership Podcast, Paula Eddy Wilcox.  Paula and I discuss how you can regain clarity on your purpose and passion when you’ve lost your way, we chat about vulnerability and how being true to yourself can be frightening, we also touch on links between mental toughness, vulnerability and psychological safety too.  It’s a great listen for those interested in leadership, and the business world though it does roll over to life in general and sport too.

Key Learning Points:

  • When you face challenges and you come out the other side it’s important to recognise what strengths you used.
  • Being around people who are aligned with your values aids your sense of well-being.
  • Having the guts to show up as your true self can be daunting.
  • Putting yourself out there, showing your true self makes you vulnerable.
  • As you get older, a lot of people seem to care less what others think.
  • Some elements of Mental Toughness, eg, risk orientation and interpersonal confidence will explain whether you make yourself vulnerable in different situations.
  • A fixed mindset can prevent you from showing vulnerability.
  • There are links with showing vulnerability and psychological safety.

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Other Useful Podcast Episodes

Ep065: Dr Amy Izycky – Encouraging Mentally Healthy Cultures in Sport

Ep075: Grant Phyphers – How to Rebuild Your Identity

Ep113: Polly Brennan – The Relationship Between Mental Fitness, Mental Health and Mental Toughness

Ep114: Tim Bradshaw – Because I Can – How To Get Out Of Your Own Way

Ep123: Richard Dorney – What Can You Learn About Resilience From The Military

Other Useful Resources linked to Mental Health

Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

Blog – 3 Tips to Deal with Bullying in Sport

Blog – How to Find Your Why 

Blog – Mental Health Guidance for Coaches When Supporting Athletes

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David Charlton

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David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

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    What Can You Learn About Resilience From The Military

    EP 123 Episode Cover Richard Dorney

    Supporting People: What Can You Learn About Resilience From The Military

    Richard Dorney

    Richard Dorney served in the British Army as an infantry soldier and as an officer for almost 39 years. He served in Northern Ireland (6 tours) the liberation of Kuwait in 1991, Bosnia, Iraq and Afghanistan. He was responsible for establishing the British Army Trauma Risk Management programme which he rolled out across the Army. He was the Chief of Staff in the Army Recovery Capability, the organisation responsible for managing the recovery of wounded injured and sick personnel. 

    Richard is a graduate of the UK Intermediate Command and Staff College. He is the Director of Strongmind Resiliency Training, a company that works to improve mental health support trauma management and resilience mainly in public sector organisations exposed to stress and trauma. Richard and his team worked to train and support UK healthcare professionals during the pandemic and many other first response organisations. He holds an MSc in War and Psychiatry from Kings College London, was made MBE in 2008 and was admitted to the Order of St John of Jerusalem. 

    In today’s episode I speak to Richard Dorney MBE.  Richard served in the military for almost 39 years and has a wealth of experience in dealing with high stress situations.  He’s now the Director of Strongmind Resiliency Training, a company that works to improve mental health support, trauma management and resilience mainly in public sector organisations exposed to stress and trauma.  Richard goes on to share his background and lessons that he’s learned.  We discuss resilience development and leadership in the military, Trauma risk management (TRIM) in the military and in healthcare and corporate settings.  

    Key Learning Points:

    • Resilience is not innate, it isn’t just something you have, you can develop it.
    • The mission comes first in the military.
    • There is a focus on the preservation of quality, power and capability. The military does very well in understanding it’s people and their capabilities.
    • Leadership in the military is very good, they invest a great deal of time and effort training leaders at every stage of their leadership development.
    • Peer support is a vital component when dealing with Trauma.
    • A strong mind is about mental resilience, robustness, thinking, attitude and behaviour. 
    • A fundamental key of a strong mind is self-awareness.
    • Psychologically informed, empathetic and compassionate leadership is vital when managing people.

    Connect with Richard Dorney MBE

    LinkedIn

    Website 

    Connect with David Charlton

    Download THE FOCUSED ATHLETE CHECKLIST

    Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

    Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn

    Other Useful Podcast Episodes

    Ep065: Dr Amy Izycky – Encouraging Mentally Healthy Cultures in Sport

    Ep066: Marilyn Okoro – Mental Health and Resilience: Lessons from an Olympic Medalist

    Ep075: Grant Phyphers – How to Rebuild Your Identity

    Ep113: Polly Brennan – The Relationship Between Mental Fitness, Mental Health and Mental Toughness

    Ep114: Tim Bradshaw – Because I Can – How To Get Out Of Your Own Way 

    Other Useful Resources linked to Mental Health

    Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

    Blog – 3 Tips to Deal with Bullying in Sport

    Blog – How to Find Your Why 

    Blog – Mental Health Guidance for Coaches When Supporting Athletes

    IF YOU ENJOYED TODAY'S SHOW PLEASE SHARE

    SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON YOUR FAVOURITE AUDIO PLATFORM

    Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they’re extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and we read every single one of them!

    David Charlton

    Best Wishes 

    David Charlton

    Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

    Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

    T: +44 7734 697769

    E: [email protected]

    Search Our Sports Psychology Website

    Popular Categories

    Join Our Online Community Now!

    Mental Edge Newsletter

    Are you an athlete, coach or parent that would like to learn how to create sustainable high performance? Receive our free regular newsletter, where we share proven mental toughness and high performance tips and strategies. If you want some support and motivation straight to your inbox, then sign up below.

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