Why Mental Toughness is Important: Lessons from Sport, Business and Loss

EP 133 Episode Cover Christina Flach

Why Mental Toughness is Important: Lessons from Sport, Business and Loss

Christina Flach

Celebrity Makeup and Hair Artist, Christina Flach, is the creator and CEO of Pretty Girl Makeup. Her work is inspired by her love of beauty, fashion, music, and art, and she channels these passions into her goal of making her client look and feel beautiful on the inside and out.

Previous clients include actress Hillary Swank, former Secretary of State Condoleezza Rice, 27th White House Press Secretary Dana Perino, Senator Ted Cruz, Forbes magazine, and The New York Times, amongst other notable names and brands

Christina was married to professional tennis player Ken Flach up to his death after a brief bout of sepsis in 2018. Since then, Christina has been dedicated to raising public awareness of the danger of sepsis, and has partnered with Sepsis Alliance to produce awareness campaigns highlighting Ken’s story. Christina has spoken about the topic on notable news sources such as Fox News, KTVU, NBC Bay Area, Tennis Channel, ABC Bay Area, and CBS.

Following on from last week, again we look at what we can learn from the business world, entrepreneurship and sport and how they overlap.  Mental Toughness is discussed in different contexts where I chat with Christina Flach, CEO of Pretty Girl Makeup.  Christina was married to former Wimbledon champion and professional tennis player Ken Flach who sadly passed away after a brief bout of sepsis in 2018.  We also go onto discuss the difficulties faced when you lose a loved one and ways that you can help yourself.   

Key Learning Points:

  • In business you need to peak a lot longer than a professional athlete does when you look at the life of your career, therefore self-care is vital.
  • You’ll be a better CEO or entrepreneur if you take time out to relax too.
  • Mental Toughness for entrepreneurs is about not giving up and learning from mistakes.
  • I learned from being a professional tennis player, goal setting and remaining focused is vital.
  • My life is not tragic, focusing on positive memories and things I’m grateful for helps me.
  • Ken would want me to live my best life and dreams and be happy, loved and laughing.
  • “There are no failures and there are no tragedies.”

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Useful Podcast Episodes

Ep050: Doug Strycharczyk, Peter Clough MBE & Dr John Perry – Mental Strength Does Not Guarantee Success 

Ep084: Jim Afremow and Phil White – Mental Toughness and The Leaders Mind

Ep114: Tim Bradshaw – Because I Can – How To Get Out Of Your Own Way

Ep121: Doug Strycharczyk and Dr John Perry – What Is New? Developments in Mental Toughness Research and Practice

Ep124: Richard Dorney MBE – Supporting People: What Can You Learn About Resilience From The Military

Ep128: Paula Eddy-Wilcox – Can You Show Vulnerability and Be Mentally Tough? Yes!

Other Useful Resources

Blog – How to Find Your Why 

Blog – 5 Reasons team captains should work with a Sports Psychologist

Blog – Mental Toughness is a Hugely Valuable Trait

Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

Blog – Mental Health Guidance for Coaches When Supporting Athletes

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David Charlton

Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

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    Can You Show Vulnerability and Be Mentally Tough? Yes!

    EP 128 Episode Cover Paula Eddy-Wilcox

    Can You Show Vulnerability and Be Mentally Tough? Yes!

    Paula Eddy-Wilcox

    Paula Eddy-Wilcox is a well respected Leadership Coach, The Natural Leadership Coach and Founder of Game of Leadership, The Podcast for Curious Leaders. When supporting her clients, business leaders and executives, she looks to empower you to achieve the things that you want in life.  Paula helps her clients to go about reaching their goals in a way that really resonates with them. By pinpointing your purpose and transforming your mindset, you can then go on to unlock a deep reserve of energy, drive, and natural aptitude that feels authentic to you.

    She is not just here to encourage you to imagine what’s possible. She is very tenacious and calm and enjoys working together with her clients to hammer out actionable, step-by-step plans for achieving your goals. 

    In today’s episode #128, I speak to a well respected leadership coach, The Natural Leadership Coach and host for The Game of Leadership Podcast, Paula Eddy Wilcox.  Paula and I discuss how you can regain clarity on your purpose and passion when you’ve lost your way, we chat about vulnerability and how being true to yourself can be frightening, we also touch on links between mental toughness, vulnerability and psychological safety too.  It’s a great listen for those interested in leadership, and the business world though it does roll over to life in general and sport too.

    Key Learning Points:

    • When you face challenges and you come out the other side it’s important to recognise what strengths you used.
    • Being around people who are aligned with your values aids your sense of well-being.
    • Having the guts to show up as your true self can be daunting.
    • Putting yourself out there, showing your true self makes you vulnerable.
    • As you get older, a lot of people seem to care less what others think.
    • Some elements of Mental Toughness, eg, risk orientation and interpersonal confidence will explain whether you make yourself vulnerable in different situations.
    • A fixed mindset can prevent you from showing vulnerability.
    • There are links with showing vulnerability and psychological safety.

    Connect with Paula Eddy-Wilcox

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    Connect with David Charlton

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    Other Useful Podcast Episodes

    Ep065: Dr Amy Izycky – Encouraging Mentally Healthy Cultures in Sport

    Ep075: Grant Phyphers – How to Rebuild Your Identity

    Ep113: Polly Brennan – The Relationship Between Mental Fitness, Mental Health and Mental Toughness

    Ep114: Tim Bradshaw – Because I Can – How To Get Out Of Your Own Way

    Ep123: Richard Dorney – What Can You Learn About Resilience From The Military

    Other Useful Resources linked to Mental Health

    Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

    Blog – 3 Tips to Deal with Bullying in Sport

    Blog – How to Find Your Why 

    Blog – Mental Health Guidance for Coaches When Supporting Athletes

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    David Charlton

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    David Charlton

    Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

    Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

    T: +44 7734 697769

    E: [email protected]

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      Long Term Injuries: How to Confront Difficult Thoughts and Emotions

      EP 124 Episode Cover Keagen Hadley

      Long Term Injuries: How to Confront Difficult Thoughts and Emotions

      Keagan Hadley

      Keagen Hadley is a doctor of occupational therapy specializing in using psychological treatments such as acceptance and commitment therapy (ACT) with his patients. As a patient and therapist, he has a deep understanding of the interventions and knows how emotional stress can interfere with rehabilitation, daily activities, and overall quality of life.

      As an athlete, he tore both ACLs playing college and semi-professional football. This experience made him acutely aware of the struggles associated psychologically post-ACL injury and how to overcome them with positive results.

      He is passionate about mental health, sports, joint-centric training and rehabilitation, financial literacy, nutrition, and entrepreneurship.

      Today’s podcast episode looks at long-term serious injuries, the psychological impact and helpful strategies to help you manage your mental health during the rehabilitation process and afterwards.  My guest, doctor of occupational therapy, Keagen Hadley has recently released a book called Torn: Overcoming the Psychological Challenges Post-ACL Injury which we go on to discuss too.  

      Keagen shares his backstory, the motivation behind writing his book, his definition of mental toughness when faced with a long term serious injury, like an ACL.  We also chat about Acceptance Commitment Therapy (ACT) as a potentially helpful solution and much more. 

      Key Learning Points:

      • Keagen didn’t intend to write a book initially however he found it became a cathartic process helping him process his thoughts and emotions.
      • He personally had two long term ACL injuries which occurred whilst playing American Football, as well as experiencing battles with depression and anxiety.
      • Being part of the group was difficult for Keagen when he was injured.
      • His identity of who he was shifted hugely.
      • Mental toughness in this context is about learning to face and sit with difficult thoughts and emotions.
      • Seeking support and discussing your problems is important to process the emotions.
      • Acceptance Commitment Therapy helped Keagen greatly during the difficult times and is something he advocates in his work with athletes too.

      Connect with Keagen Hadley

      LinkedIn

      Website 

      BOOK: Torn Overcoming Psychological Challenges Post ACL 

      Connect with David Charlton

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      Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

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      To Listen to the Full Podcast Episodes

      Ep011: Dave Algeo – Mental Toughness, Mental Health and High Performance

      Ep018: Kieron Brady – From Professional Football to Alcoholism Consultant

      Ep075: Grant Phyphers – How to Rebuild Your Identity

      Ep113: Polly Brennan – The Relationship Between Mental Fitness, Mental Health and Mental Toughness

      Ep124: Richard Dorney MBE – Supporting People: What Can You Learn About Resilience From The Military

      Other Useful Resources linked to Mental Health

      Blog – Make Better Decisions to Help Your Sport Performance

      Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

      Blog – 3 Tips to Deal with Bullying in Sport

      Blog – How to Find Your Why 

      Blog – Mental Health Guidance for Coaches When Supporting Athletes

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      Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they’re extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and we read every single one of them!

      David Charlton

      Best Wishes 

      David Charlton

      Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

      Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

      T: +44 7734 697769

      E: [email protected]

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        What Can You Learn About Resilience From The Military

        EP 123 Episode Cover Richard Dorney

        Supporting People: What Can You Learn About Resilience From The Military

        Richard Dorney

        Richard Dorney served in the British Army as an infantry soldier and as an officer for almost 39 years. He served in Northern Ireland (6 tours) the liberation of Kuwait in 1991, Bosnia, Iraq and Afghanistan. He was responsible for establishing the British Army Trauma Risk Management programme which he rolled out across the Army. He was the Chief of Staff in the Army Recovery Capability, the organisation responsible for managing the recovery of wounded injured and sick personnel. 

        Richard is a graduate of the UK Intermediate Command and Staff College. He is the Director of Strongmind Resiliency Training, a company that works to improve mental health support trauma management and resilience mainly in public sector organisations exposed to stress and trauma. Richard and his team worked to train and support UK healthcare professionals during the pandemic and many other first response organisations. He holds an MSc in War and Psychiatry from Kings College London, was made MBE in 2008 and was admitted to the Order of St John of Jerusalem. 

        In today’s episode I speak to Richard Dorney MBE.  Richard served in the military for almost 39 years and has a wealth of experience in dealing with high stress situations.  He’s now the Director of Strongmind Resiliency Training, a company that works to improve mental health support, trauma management and resilience mainly in public sector organisations exposed to stress and trauma.  Richard goes on to share his background and lessons that he’s learned.  We discuss resilience development and leadership in the military, Trauma risk management (TRIM) in the military and in healthcare and corporate settings.  

        Key Learning Points:

        • Resilience is not innate, it isn’t just something you have, you can develop it.
        • The mission comes first in the military.
        • There is a focus on the preservation of quality, power and capability. The military does very well in understanding it’s people and their capabilities.
        • Leadership in the military is very good, they invest a great deal of time and effort training leaders at every stage of their leadership development.
        • Peer support is a vital component when dealing with Trauma.
        • A strong mind is about mental resilience, robustness, thinking, attitude and behaviour. 
        • A fundamental key of a strong mind is self-awareness.
        • Psychologically informed, empathetic and compassionate leadership is vital when managing people.

        Connect with Richard Dorney MBE

        LinkedIn

        Website 

        Connect with David Charlton

        Download THE FOCUSED ATHLETE CHECKLIST

        Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

        Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn

        Other Useful Podcast Episodes

        Ep065: Dr Amy Izycky – Encouraging Mentally Healthy Cultures in Sport

        Ep066: Marilyn Okoro – Mental Health and Resilience: Lessons from an Olympic Medalist

        Ep075: Grant Phyphers – How to Rebuild Your Identity

        Ep113: Polly Brennan – The Relationship Between Mental Fitness, Mental Health and Mental Toughness

        Ep114: Tim Bradshaw – Because I Can – How To Get Out Of Your Own Way 

        Other Useful Resources linked to Mental Health

        Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

        Blog – 3 Tips to Deal with Bullying in Sport

        Blog – How to Find Your Why 

        Blog – Mental Health Guidance for Coaches When Supporting Athletes

        IF YOU ENJOYED TODAY'S SHOW PLEASE SHARE

        SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON YOUR FAVOURITE AUDIO PLATFORM

        Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they’re extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and we read every single one of them!

        David Charlton

        Best Wishes 

        David Charlton

        Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

        Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly. 

        T: +44 7734 697769

        E: [email protected]

        Search Our Sports Psychology Website

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          What Is New? Developments in Mental Toughness Research and Practice

          EP 121 Episode Cover Doug Strycharczyk and Dr John Perry

          What Is New? Developments in Mental Toughness Research and Practice

          Doug Strycharczyk and Dr John Perry

          Doug Strycharczyk is viewed as a rock star in the Mental Toughness world.  He has pioneered the application of the mental toughness to a wide variety of sectors.   He’s seen as one of the leading authorities worldwide on the application of the 4Cs Mental Toughness model, Doug works in the Occupational, Educational, Social Work, Sports and Health settings in more than 80 countries.  

          He’s the CEO for AQR International and an experienced author who has contributed to a number of books that look at developing mental toughness and resilience with individuals and at an organisational level, with youngsters through to leaders. The development of psychometric tests are also a feature of Doug’s work.

          Doug Strycharczyk Books: Developing Mental Toughness, Developing Employability and Enterprise, Developing Resilient Organisations, Developing Mental Toughness in Young People.

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          Dr John Perry is Head of Psychology at Mary Immaculate College in Ireland. For several years John has been a core member of the AQR International team which has continued the development of the mental toughness concept and has been central to the work carried out establishing the reliability of the concept. John has published many papers on Mental Toughness often in collaboration with Peter Clough and Kostas Papageorgiou.

          John has also led the exploration of specific aspects of Mental Toughness and a variety of applications – including new insights into understanding stress management all of which have direct implication for practitioners.

          Today marks a landmark in the Demystifying Mental Toughness Podcast where the show has been running for 2 years without missing a week.  As a result, 2 very special guests and pioneers in the field Doug Strycharczyk and Dr John Perry join me.  Together we discuss the third edition of their book alongside Professor Peter Clough, Developing Mental Toughness, we chat about new developments to the 4C’s Mental Toughness model.  Doug and John also share their thoughts on where research and practice is heading sharing insights into Mental Toughness and its relationships with innovation, trust and Mental Health.

          Key Learning Points:

          • The development of the eight factors in the four Cs Mental Toughness model include the introduction of goal orientation, achievement orientation, risk orientation and learning orientation.
          • The eight factor framework for mental toughness has brought a new lens to understanding how other people behave.  We’ve been looking at things like trust, innovation, curiosity and more recently vulnerability.
          • Goal orientation is the extent to which you are likely to be motivated by targets.
          • Achievement orientation is the extent to which you make sure that you stick in to meet that target or goal.
          • Learning orientation links to the question – do you keep making the same mistakes?
          • In sport a lot of people struggle with reflection and repeating mistakes.  Age may have something to do with this.
          • There is potential for developing some really interesting solutions for lots of people through the Mental Toughness lens moving forwards.
          • The 4C’s model is sufficiently complex, in that it represents people and the future is very exciting where we have many options to continue on the great work already done.

          Connect with Dr John Perry:

          Twitter: @johnperry81

          Email: [email protected]

          Connect with Doug Strycharczyk:

          LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/dougstrycharczyk/

          Email: [email protected]

          https://aqrinternational.co.uk/

          Connect with David Charlton

          Download THE FOCUSED ATHLETE CHECKLIST

          Join David @ The Sports Psychology Hub

          Instagram, Facebook, Twitter and LinkedIn

          To Listen to the Full Podcast Episodes

          Ep001: Doug Strycharczyk – The Importance of Mental Toughness

          Ep028: Peter Clough MBE – Why is Mental Toughness Important?

          Ep035: Dr John Perry – Thrive, Don’t Just Survive 2021

          Ep050: Doug Strycharczyk, Peter Clough MBE & Dr John Perry – Mental Strength Does Not Guarantee Success 

          Ep109: Maria Jeffers – How to master the mental side of horse riding

          Other Useful Resources

          5 Reasons team captains should work with a Sports Psychologist

          Blog – Mental-Toughness is a Hugely Valuable Trait

          Blog – Make Better Decisions to Help Your Sport Performance

          Blog – 5 Ways to Create a Psychological Safe Sporting Environment

           

          IF YOU ENJOYED TODAY'S SHOW PLEASE SHARE

          SUBSCRIBE AND LISTEN ON YOUR FAVOURITE AUDIO PLATFORM

          Also, kindly consider taking the 60-seconds it takes to leave an honest review and rating for the podcast on iTunes, they’re extremely helpful when it comes to the ranking of the show and we read every single one of them!

          David Charlton

          Best Wishes 

          David Charlton

          Global Sports Psychologist who is located near Newcastle Upon Tyne, UK and willing to travel Internationally.  David also uses online video conferencing software (Zoom, Facetime, WhatsApp) on a regular basis and has clients who he has supported in USA, Canada, South America, UAE, Australian and New Zealand.  

          Managing Director – Inspiring Sporting Excellence and Founder of The Sports Psychology Hub.  With over 10 years experience supporting athletes, coaches, parents and teams to achieve their goals, quickly.     

          T: +44 7734 697769

          E: [email protected]

          Search Our Sports Psychology Website

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            How to Help Footballers Who Have Been Released – Part Two

            EP 117 Episode Cover David Charlton

            How to Help Footballers Who Have Been Released – Part Two By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to: Cope with pressure and challenges more

            How to Help Footballers Who Have Been Released – Part One

            EP 116 Episode Cover David Charlton

            How to Help Footballers Who Have Been Released – Part One By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to: Cope with pressure and challenges more

            The Relationship Between Mental Fitness, Mental Health and Mental Toughness

            EP 113 Episode Cover Polly Brennan

            The Relationship Between Mental Fitness, Mental Health and Mental Toughness Polly Brennan is founder of Adventurous Coaching and creator of The Mental Fitness Kitbag™ Model. Polly teaches strategies in 9 disciplines which strengthen mental wealth. Drawing on years of expertise working in the NHS mental health sector, Polly is also a Professional Certified Coach and an Occupational

            David on Being Tough Vs Being Comfortable in Your Own Skin Part 4

            David Charlton

            David on Being Tough Vs Being Comfortable in Your Own Skin – Part 4 By working with David Charlton, you and your organisation will be better equipped to rise to modern day challenges and better informed to thrive on and off the pitch, course or court.  Where he inspires individuals and teams to: Cope with pressure